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I always envied people who had generations of family in one area. Cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, seeing the extended family every time you went to the store; I've never had that.

I know where my father is from.
I know where my mother is from.
I can show you the house where my father was born, the cemeteries where my father and all my grandparents are laid to rest.

But me? I'm not from there.
I'm a Navy brat. I grew up all over.

Having that sort of rootless existence as a child changes your perspective. Permanence is a myth, something other people have. There is no family home passed down from the grandparents, no sense of working the land my ancestors worked. There is no one place to go back home to in times of stress. People, maybe, but not places.

You always have to leave.
And the corollary, everybody leaves eventually.

I know, better than most, how dangerous it is to build your home in a person instead of a place. I've done it anyway. Nights like tonight, when he's out of state on a trip, I am all too keenly aware that the guest bedroom we currently sleep in is not my home.

He is.

And I can't wait until my home comes home to me.

LJI entry, done in a hurry to beat the deadline.

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Date: 2017-02-01 03:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] kajel.livejournal.com
Love this. I'm an Air Force brat. Where my parents and sisters are still feels a little like home, but Home has become my husband. I get how it's the people.

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Date: 2017-02-01 07:51 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you! It's nice to know I'm not the only person who feels this way.

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Date: 2017-02-02 10:44 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] penpusher.livejournal.com
A reminder that home is not always the geography, it's the people within it. That's how military families manage to function.

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Date: 2017-02-03 04:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Yep. It's a much harder life than most people realize.

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Date: 2017-02-02 12:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] eternal-ot.livejournal.com
I know, better than most, how dangerous it is to build your home in a person instead of a place. Nailed it with this. *hugs*

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Date: 2017-02-03 04:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you!

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Date: 2017-02-02 03:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] rayaso.livejournal.com
What a thoughtful poem! I especially liked the last 3 stanzas, particularly the last one. Well done!

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Date: 2017-02-03 04:08 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you!

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Date: 2017-02-02 09:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] bleodswean.livejournal.com
Air Force brat here and a million yes's to this. It's short and succinct and yet so very full of experience. Nicely done!

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Date: 2017-02-03 04:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you! It's so good to be hearing affirmations from other people who have lived it.

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Date: 2017-02-03 12:43 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] beeker121.livejournal.com
That last line is amazing.

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Date: 2017-02-03 04:09 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you!

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Date: 2017-02-04 01:55 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] dmousey.livejournal.com
Hug, because this write makes me think you really need one. Hugs again, and peace~~~

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Date: 2017-02-06 10:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you. Hugs are always appreciated.

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Date: 2017-02-04 06:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] murielle.livejournal.com
Beautiful! I love the last line. It says it all!

Brava!

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Date: 2017-02-06 10:27 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
Thank you!

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Date: 2017-02-05 06:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] halfshellvenus.livejournal.com
There are several entries this week from military children, and not one of them enjoyed moving around so often-- which doesn't surprise me. My Dad moved us around a lot, and he didn't even really have an excuse. I think it's less hard on extroverted children, but it sure isn't easy for anyone.

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Date: 2017-02-06 10:28 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
It's hard to be a Brat (or any other nomadic kid). We have no say in so much of our lives - we didn't choose the lifestyle, and at any point in time we can be told it's time to pack up, say goodbye to friends and head off into the unknown. If nothing else, we learn to be resilient over it.

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Date: 2017-02-05 09:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] alycewilson.livejournal.com
*hugs* I can only imagine what that must have been like, having grown up in the same house since age 5. I imagine it must have been difficult.

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Date: 2017-02-06 10:29 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] deza.livejournal.com
This is one of the reasons we have such different perspectives on life. I invariably find yours fascinating. :)
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