This is completely out of your control, but then, you already knew that. I cried for weeks over Lily because of her toileting problem. It was nothing that I did wrong and maybe if I didn't have all the children and hadn't been pregnant, maybe, just maybe, I could have fixed it, but it's unlikely and my husband wouldn't put up with the puddles any more (and to be honest, I wasn't massively happy with it either).

This is something which is just innate to him. It's part of who he is. And unfortunately, that means tough decisions. It's not your fault. It's not his. But that doesn't make it any easier.